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Dancing On the Clouds! How I Stared Fear In The Face and Stuck Out My Tongue

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Dancing On the Clouds! How I Stared Fear In The Face and Stuck Out My Tongue

I've always longingly gazed out of an airplane window and wondered what it would be like to dance on the clouds.  They are so white and fluffy!  I imagine it whenever I visit Skyzone, the place with multiple trampolines that let you bounce to your heart's content. 


For my birthday, my husband made my wish come true and we went skydiving! I wanted to share with you what I learned from this awesome experience.

  • There is more than one way to do something. 

I didn't realize that different tandem instructors have different ways of exiting the plane...until my husband went first.  My instructor told me to sit on the edge of the plane when we were ready to jump out, place my feet on the step on the plane, stick out my hips and throw out my arms.  I repeated these instructions OVER AND OVER because I wanted to get it right.  So when my husband and his instructor went first, and they corkscrewed off of the step, I FREAKED!  Did he trip and fall?  Holy cow!  I turned to my tandem instructor and was like, "WHAT THE HECK!?@!?" He laughed and said everyone has their own way to jump. LESSON LEARNED: Don't worry if someone else is doing things differently in business or in their personal life than you are.  They (hopefully) know what they are doing!  What YOU are doing may be perfect for you. In other words, YOU DO YOU!

  • You can go your own way!

So many friends told me, "Better you than me!" or "OMG I would never do that!" when I told them I was going skydiving.  I had a great conversation with my friends Tara and Eric.  They were both like, "Nuh uh, no way!" I respectfully told Eric that climbing Mount Kilimanjaro which he did a few years ago has no appeal for me.  And I kindly shared with Tara that taking a Disney cruise which she did a few years ago sounds like hell on Earth to me.   We all have something that WE love to do!  You honor your authentic self when you find that and pursue it. LESSON LEARNED: Blaze your own trail!  If you want to do something (positive) that no one else has done, do it!

  • Resistance feels like a tiger in your face but really is just a kitten trying out her claws.

Fearless is NOT how I would describe myself!  I feel fear for sure.  But what I have learned is that some fear is just not right or reasonable.  The first time I walked into a FAB Women network meeting, I was afraid.  Sure, I'm an extrovert, but I feel weird if I think a group of women all know each other and I am the "intruder"!  But last year, I pushed past that fear, walked in, and met the most awesome, dynamic and accepting group of women I have ever met!  Resistance wanted me to walk away that day but I walked in....and so many wonderful things have happened!  I've met some incredible women.  My life has changed!

Resistance also shows up as laziness (I don't wanna get up), distraction (ooh, FaceBook!), and anxiety (I will look stupid). Resistance wants you to call in sick to your own life.

LESSON LEARNED: If you can overcome resistance, face your fear, and deal with it, everything you want is on the other side. I jumped out of an airplane, and for a few fleeting moments, I was completely and utterly free.  It was hair-curling, goose pimpling, endorphin gorging magic!  I DANCED ON THE CLOUDS!  Best of all - I DIDN'T HURL!  Jeff, my tandem instructor, was happiest about that fact...LOL.  I was just completely happy!

So to wrap up, I want to share this quote that I love from Elizabeth Gilbert from "Big Magic" with her instructions for fear:

And her road-trip rules are for life. She says to fear:

"You're allowed to have a seat, and you're allowed to have a voice. But you are not allowed to have a vote. You're not allowed to touch the road maps, or suggest detours. You're not allowed to fiddle with the temperature. Dude, you're not even allowed to touch the radio. But above all else, you are absolutely forbidden to drive."


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